Gieles, Frans, Warmth
and intimacy, how about them? Published and reprinted since 1983 in
Dutch magazine and book.
Child care workers wish to give the children a warm relationship and a climate
of intimacy. But how is that possible? In their work in the daily life situation
there are so many conflict situations. How can they handle conflicts and create
a warm relationship and a good climate with the same children? These questions
are answered from an action research project in which journals of child care
workers are written, analyzed and discussed with the workers. The gap between
workers and children can be bridged, and warmth and intimacy are possible if..
Gieles, Frans, Care
as a key task, published in Dutch magazine and book, 1983, 1987
The key task of child care workers is helping the residents to live. The most
important and essential resource in this profession is: sharing everyday life
with them. And within daily life the housekeeping task is a very essential part,
the most fruitful meeting place for the residents and their child care worker -
the specialist in the ordinary. This thesis is elaborated and illuminated in the
article, which also contains part of the results of an action research project.
Gieles, F., How to
act in everyday life conflicts In a residential living group; In: R.
Soisson, Aktuelle Probleme Jugendlichen in der Heimerziehung in Europa, Texte
zum internationalen Kongress, juni 1985, Luxemburg, FICE, Zürich, 1986
Gieles, Frans E.J.,
Conflict and Contact, An
investigation into various possibilities for action open to child care workers
when managing collisions and conflicts. in daily fife.
Dissertation by Frans E.J. Gieles. University of Groningen, The Netherlands,
Frans Gieles & Jeanette Visser, Methodiek ontwikkelen voor praktijk
en opleiding, Verslag van het project Fondsforming Leefsituatiewerk.
[Developing methodology for practice and
education; report of the project 'forming a fund of knowledge' for
residential care work] - Raad voor het Hoger Beroepsonderwijs Postbus 123,
NL 2501 CC 's-Gravenhage, The Netherlands 1988
of an investigation of action research, in which residential care workers,
instructors in the field of residential care and researchers have developed a
methodology for said word, and for the vocational training for same. The process
of developing a methodology is described and amplified by part of the results.
The method applied and recommended here has proved useful for this process, and
also for team counseling and vocational training. What it amounts to is that the
"story" of one's functioning in practice is systematically told,
analyzed and critically discussed in a cyclic process by which a methodology is
(1) Profession & (3) Loving Children
Gieles, Frans E. J., A Carefully
Reconnoitering of the Limits Between Wanted and Unwanted Intimacy;
Summary of a lecture for the Flemish Association of Orthopedagogues,
Gent, Belgium, 24 November 1995; Published in: tOKK, (Journal for
Orthopedagogy, Child Psychiatry and Clinical Child Psychology), 22-3,
Nowadays, much behavior is
labeled as "sexual", but it is debatable if that behavior is felt or
meant as sexual. Thus, I say: Do not sexualize what is not felt or meant as
such. Especially sexologists do this. They observe and count behavior of
children by gender and age, and they give percentages to know if certain sexual
behavior is normal or not. [...]
In modern society acts are frequently labeled as sexual as they are not
felt or meant as such. The rare groups that plea for more sexual freedom for
youth do this. Also they who combat that idea of more freedom with ardor do
this. Sexologists do it and it is bon ton among professional helpers.
Public opinion also trends to separate youth and sex. The effect is that
granddads and grannies, parents and teachers, as well as childcare workers for
surety create great standoffishness.
(3) Loving children
Gieles, F.E.J., Go Dutch - A Practice Sample;
Youth and Sexuality in the Netherlands; Paper presented at the 19th
World Congress for Sexual Health, World Association of Sexology,
Göteborg, Sweden, June 2009
The Dutch are very open about sex. Sexual education starts at the age of toddlers. Contacts with the mothers are
open and intimate, those with the fathers are friendly. Children have much privacy. Contraceptives are easily to obtain. [...]
Most of the Dutch youth have good sexual ethics and act along those lines.
[...]The Netherlands has very low rates of
abortion, young unmarried mothers and venereal disease. Dutch children are
among the happiest children of the western world, in sharp contrast to
those in the UK and the USA.
Gieles, F.E.J., The
tail end of a long dachshund - A long-standing ethics discussion
- February 2012
In May 2011, the
Martijn Association decided to set up an Ethics Commission. Ethics
is concerned with the question of what is good and what is bad; with
values, norms and guidelines. [...]
In this article, I aim to place these guidelines in a broader
context, namely that of the debate which has taken place in the
Netherlands – and far beyond its borders – since the 1990s. The
commission does not come up with any revolutionary, new advice, but
follows up on a long-standing discussion, like the tail end of a long
It shows that, as long as people with paedophilic feelings are allowed
to enter into serious discussion, far from ending up in ‘raunchy
suggestions’ the end result is an actual ethical code – and a
fairly strict one at that.
Gieles, F.E.J., Introduction to
a panel discussion on pedophilia at Alcmaeon,
the Utrecht (NL) Faculty Association for the Social Sciences, 1997
Lecture about ‘pedophilia’;
University of Nijmegen, November 10, 2005, and
of Tilburg, November 14, 2005 (Dutch);
Amsterdam, School for International Training, (English) March 28, 2006
Gieles, F.E.J., Fear
Alternatives for aggression and scapegoating
Short lecture at Movies that Matter, Amsterdam, March 21, 2012;
What moved the inhabitants? Fear of relapse of the man Karl.
Is this fear realistic?
Are there figures about relapse? Yes.
These figures represent cases of child sexual abuse, of which every case is one too much, so they are a cause for concern, but not a cause to panic - at least not a cause to attack people, to ban people from the community and by doing so increasing their feelings of anxiety and stress, thus increasing the chance of relapse. The same figures are a cause to find other ways of acting.
Gieles, F.E.J., There
must be a scapegoat; Pitfalls, traps and mistakes in forensic personality
This report is based on general knowledge of the forensic field, but more
specifically on the study of 25 reports made by experts for the court, in moral
law cases concerning alleged abuse of minors or pictures of minors.
In 25 reports - so many not seen pitfalls, traps, problems and mistakes. This
may ask for more study and thinking on a fundamental level, the level of the
grounding models and visions, thus on a philosophical level.
version - presented in Prague in June 2006 at the
Congress of the European Federation of Sexologists.
Gieles, F.E.J., 'But
sir, you are an offender!' - - - Narrative coercion as method of
This is a short explorative study concerning the methodology of the sex
offender treatment (SOT), presently frequently used as routine in the
Netherlands and abroad.
The basis is a short exploration of the literature and the
experiences of fifteen clients from several countries.
The public and the courts don't know better than that there is a treatment by
experts, but they don't know what happens within the clinics. Let's have a look
within those walls, as far as literature and clients have given us information.
Let us look critically.
version - presented in Prague in June 2006 at the
Congress of the European Federation of Sexologists.
Gieles, F.E.J., ‘Research
has shown…’ On ideology and science, KOINOS Magazine # 60, 2008 #
Relatively little research has been carried out into the ways in which
intergenerational contacts are experienced. That which we ‘know’ about
(sexual) relations between young persons and older persons mainly consists of
interpretations of studies carried out among ‘abuse victims’. Those who get
different finding – simply by asking questions and listening to people – are
seen as having been taken in by the ‘cognitive mistakes’ paedophiles make.
All this does not amount to critiques of scientific method, but to ideology.
Gieles, F.E.J., Research, models and ideology
- How to combat false ideology? KOINOS Magazine # 62, 2009 # 2.
In Koinos 60 we described some findings from research of intergenerational intimacy. We mentioned research that was not prejudiced, or at least tried to examine experiences in an open manner. In many other cases however, morality interferes with science. Certain facts or ideas are not allowed to exist, not allowed to be true, so they cannot be true. How to combat false ideology wrapped up as ‘science’?
Gieles, F.E.J., "I didn't know how to deal with it", Young people speak out
about their sexual contacts with adults, translated from the Dutch NVSH Lwg JORis
Newsletter, april 1998.
Gieles, F.E.J., Mister
President... The USA is shocked by
the research of Rind, Bauserman & Tromovich, In: Ipce Newsletter nr. E6,
Gieles, F.E.J., Science
and Morality, or The Rind et al. Controversy,
The counter arguments replied, In: Ipce Newsletter E
7, December 1999
Gieles, F.E.J., Explanation
of the statistics used in the
Meta-analysis, In: Ipce Newsletter E7, December 1999
Gieles, F.E.J., Forget the four percent - Remember the one percent - August 2017
Now and then, I have said that the research of Rind c.s. should prove that a sexual experience during childhood in only four percent should result in lasting harm, and only for girls and only for cases of incest and force. This is not correct.
I discovered this in a shock after someone said that this was only one percent. In my text to correct this into 4%, I wanted to place a link to this cipher in Rind’s meta-analysis. This 4% cannot be found there!
The 1% can be found in Rind’s meta=analysis, but this cipher has another meaning.
... Explanation ... Snakes in the grass ... Contemplation ...
Gieles, F.E.J., About
recidivism, a meta-analysis reviewed.
Review of Predicting
Relapse: A meta-Analysis of Sexual Offender Recidivism Studies, by R. Karl
Hanson and Monique T. Bussière, Department of the Solicitor General of Canada.
In: Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, Edited by the American
Psychological Association, 1998, Vol. 66, No. 2, pp 348-362
Gieles, F. The
struggles about the free will, facts and morality,
debate about the publications of Rind, Bauserman & Tromovitch goes on –
bird’s eye view, 1997 - 2002,
In: Ipce Newsletter E 13, June 2002
In this article, I have tried to give an overview of the debate on the Rind et
al. publication in 1998 and earlier. It appeared that the debate was hot and
that it had several phases. People began to attack without even reading the
meta-analysis, and even politicians mixed the discourse about facts and the
discourse about morals. Gradually,
the meta-analysis was seriously studied and the debate concentrated on the
science and the facts. The science is still in debate, but some facts are
acknowledged, and the author and their publications are taken as serious.
and human rights in intergenerational relationships
do no harm’
; In: Ipce
Newsletter E 17, June 2004
Since the mid-1990s,
Ipce members have held discussions about ethics. I have listened to the members.
In this article, I will summarize the salient points of several opinions I have
Gieles, Frans E.
J., Is pedophilia a mental disorder? Discussion in
Archives of Sexual Behavior. Report; in: Ipce Newsletter E15, March 2003
The December 2002
issue is a special about pedophilia.
Richard Green argues for the removal of pedophilia from the DSM, the famous
handbook that defines psychiatric illnesses, among which is pedophilia, albeit
under certain conditions.
Gunter Schmidt says that not all pedophiles are per se unscrupulous molesters;
instead pedophiles have a problem of conscience, a moral dilemma, and they
deserve respect rather than condemnation.
There follow peer comments from 21 authors give peer comments, after
which Green and Schmidt reply. [...]
In this Newsletter, I give the following report.
Gieles, F.E.J., Helping
people with pedophilic feelings, lecture at the World Congress of
Sexology, Paris, 28 June 2001 and the congress of the Nordic Association of
Clinical Sexology, Visby, Sweden, September 2001 en to published in European
Journal of Medical Sexologie: Sexologies.
A web site with
Lecture in English, le
Fançais, im Deutsch y en Español
Background article (English, Deutsch)
References (English, Français & Deutsch)
Summary and curriculum vitae.
to Minors' -
perils of protecting children from sex -
Lecture about the book of Judith
Levine, Harmful for Minors,
The perils of protecting children from sex, 2001,
University of Minnesota Press, Minneapolis / London
Rotterdam, The Netherlands, 1 November 2002
Study conference 'Aljen Klamer group', Paul' s Church,
"Abuse by definition? Image and reality"
(4) Being a
person in society
E. J., Three personal essays
Narcissism, A standard diagnosis
'Narcissism' is a standard
diagnosis for people with pedophilic emotions.
Regularly the newspapers tell us this.
However: who, reader, judge, the people concerned, knows what exactly this
Reasons enough to investigate this question.
This is not an academic lecture
about narcissism, but a personal essay.
Many a book about developmental psychology discusses the 'Oedipus complex'.
The story became another one when I read in a diagnostic report about
myself that an Oedipus complex should exist in my own soul - even a
'negative Oedipus complex'.
For a while, I was perplexed.
I have changed that statement into a question and I started to
What has got into those
My soul houses
many feelings, among which also pedophilic ones:
children attract me and now and then also an erotic feeling creeps up.
What is their source?
Why is this a problem nowadays?
How might one live with them?
How might society live with this fact?